What Is It?
The See for Yourself approach is a fun and effective way to build fulfilling relationships with your kids while passing on the Catholic Faith. The approach is simple: dad uses viral YouTube videos as icebreakers to capture the attention and imagination of the whole family, and then turns that captivation into lively discussion about life and the Faith. It’s really cool.
We make implementing this approach easy by providing See for Yourself guides. Each of these online guides includes 1-3 hand-selected videos along with questions, answers and activities designed to engage the whole family. The guides offer the Catholic perspective on a variety of topics, from Angels, Demons, and the Church Militant to Fatherhood, Humanity, Beauty and the role of Emotions.
How It Works
Use videos like these to build relationships and pass on the Catholic Faith!
Why Would I Need It?
If you’re looking for an easy way to have fun with your family, build fulfilling relationships with them, and pass on the Catholic Faith all at the same time, then the See for Yourself approach is for you.
Dads who use this approach experience revitalization in their families. Their kids are more affectionate, their wives look at them differently, and their homes change for the better. Why? Because dad is embracing his God-given role as teacher and leader. When he does this, his family blossoms.
Sound too good to be true? It’s not. Just check out the testimonials.
Who Is It For?
The See for Yourself approach was designed to be used by Catholic fathers of children old enough to watch a YouTube video. The See for Yourself guides are aimed at kids 5 and older.
How Do I Use the Approach?
The See for Yourself approach is to use the coolest videos on the internet as icebreakers to captivate your kids’ imaginations, and clever questions about those videos to transform that captivation into lively interaction, discussion, and a search for Truth. What does that look like?
Imagine a dad after dinner every Monday rallying his kids. “Come on guys, I’ve got some cool videos to show you!”
The kids run into the family room, Dad plugs his laptop into the TV and plays the first 2-minute video; a prank where a man dresses up like a statue of the Devil and startles people who walk by.
The kids laugh. Dad laughs.
Dad reads the question below the video: what does this tell us about the Devil?
His 17-year-old son thinks for a moment, then shares “it may seem like the Devil is NOT real, but he actually is.”
“Excellent! Great answer!”
And his son… smiles.
His 6-year-old daughter’s hand shoots into the air. “Stay away from the Devil or he’ll scare you!”
Dad laughs and says “great job!” And she beams.
Then Dad plays a second video about a man catching venomous snakes by the tail.
Dad’s 10-year-old daughter covers her face in disgust, then peeks between her fingers. He reads the question: “What part of the snake does the man avoid?”
His 13-year-old daughter says “the head!”
“Why?” Dad asks, furrowing his eyebrows, looking her in the eyes and encouraging her to think deeper.
“Because the head is the part that bites and can kill you!”
“That’s right!” He smiles, proud of her for coming to the answer on her own. And she…shines.
“How is the way this man deals with the snakes similar to how exorcists deal with the Devil?”
His 15-year-old daughter answers this time. “They don’t trust anything that comes from the Devil’s mouth.”
“Very good, Olivia! That’s exactly right.” And she…smiles.
Dad reads the scripture verse: “The Devil is a liar and a murder from the beginning.” Then he elaborates: “Just like the guy in the video has to be careful of what comes out of the snake’s mouth (venom which can poison you), exorcists have to be careful of what comes out of the Devil’s mouth: lies and deceit which can poison the heart of the exorcist.”
After one more video and discussion, they end with a prayer and then on to dessert. The 10-year-old daughter wraps her arm around her dad and says, “thanks Dad, that was cool.”
So, what just happened?
Dad spent quality time with his kids. He affirmed them, and they affirmed him. They had fun together. And he made the Faith relevant.
That’s the See for Yourself approach. In summary:
1. Start with Viral YouTube Videos
You can find these videos on your own, or you can use the ones provided in the See for Yourself guides.
2. Turn Those Videos into Discussion About the Faith
Every video in a See for Yourself guide comes with carefully crafted questions to help you get the discussion started.
3. Enjoy Your Time Together!
This is an opportunity to bond with your kids and let their personalities shine. Let them know that not only are they free to engage, but you are interested in what they have to say. Because you know what? Sometimes your kids will offer insights you’d never thought of before. And when they don’t, their answers are usually pretty cute.
Don’t be afraid if you get off topic. This isn’t a curriculum, it’s kindling for a lively interaction.
Watching cool videos and discussing them with your kids isn’t just a fun and easy way to pass on the Faith; it’s also allowing you to spend precious time with your family. This type of faith and fun-centric bonding is foundational for a strong Catholic family.
The best part? You’re in charge. Not only will your kids be excited to see the videos, they’ll be excited that you are the one showing them.
Why Is It Effective?
1. It’s Fun
This one is obvious: watching cool videos together is fun. The See for Yourself approach isn’t something your kids are going to dread, it’s something they’ll look forward to. That’s the first step in building fulfilling relationships and passing on the Faith: positive and memorable experiences.
2. Dad is #1
The See For Yourself approach doesn’t replace dad, it equips him. When you use this approach, you aren’t just a passive observer to a program made for the whole family: you are the leader utilizing an approach designed specifically for you to connect with your family. When you take up your role as leader, your kids respond.
3. Speaking Your Kids’ Language
YouTube is the most used app of Gen Z (kids born after 1995). Your kids are accustomed to watching videos online and then sharing them with their friends. The See for Yourself approach uses these exact same videos, but this time, YOU are the one sharing them. In a sense, you are speaking to your kids in their own language.
4. Belong, then Believe
Children have a deep desire to be sought out, known, and loved by their father. For them to care what you have to say about the Catholic Faith, they first need to know that you care about them. They need to feel like they belong. Once they belong, they will grow to believe the same things you believe. The See for Yourself approach marries both of these ideas. By seeking out your kids, speaking their language, and affirming them, you establish the kind of relationship necessary to plant the seeds of belief: belief in your love and God’s love.
5. Viral Videos as Parables
Jesus spoke in parables, simple stories that imprint deeply in our minds and offer ever new insights. The See for Yourself approach uses viral YouTube videos as parables. Just as the prodigal son can teach us about God’s unending love, so can a dad carrying his son to the finish line of an Olympic race. These types of memorable stories – stories that everyone gets at their own level – are the best way to pass on the eternal Truths of the Catholic Faith.
For Your Kids
- Kids feel loved. When you consistently take the time to dialogue with your kids, affirm them, and engage them about the big questions of life and eternity, they feel cared for and accompanied. Your affirmation and interest make kids feel stability and love.
- Building Bridges. This approach opens the door to the type of family intimacy needed to talk about the most important things in life. When your kids feel heard and pursued by you, they are willing to share their hearts, their fears, and their dreams. Your kids will open up and blossom.
- Learning Priorities. “There is need of only one thing.” – Luke 10:42 God tells us that loving Him wholeheartedly is THE priority. When you take up this See for Yourself approach, your kids not only learn what is most important, they also begin to experience for themselves God’s wonder and love. They discover the joy of the only life priority worth living for – and dying for.
For Your Wife
- Wives feel loved. Very much so! When you take up the spiritual headship of the family, your wife feels feel freed to step back into her desired role as heart of the family. She feels loved because you “get it” and have prioritized your kids and family in the most important area: eternal life.
- Your wife will be warmer. Seriously. We hear this constantly. Wives feel loved and in turn are more affectionate and appreciative of dad. They look at dad with more delight and are more attracted to him. Pretty great, right?
- Your kids will be warmer. Dad receives extra smiles and hugs. Kids show more appreciation and are more cooperative and open. The relationship gets easier and more fulfilling.
- You will feel more satisfied. You will feel a surge in confidence from the warm response of your family. You will see your progress toward your greatest priority: getting your kids and wife to heaven. The goodness of God will swell your soul, since you are acting in accord with your own Father who desires all of His children to be with Him forever in Heaven.
How Do I
1. Commit to Consistency
As with all the most important things in life, building fulfilling relationships and passing on the Faith to your children only happens if you’re consistent. Just like you wouldn’t expect to put on 20 pounds of muscle without consistently hitting the gym and eating right, you can’t expect your family’s relationships and faith to grow if you’re not consistently working towards that goal. You have to commit to consistency.
Commit now. Time is of the essence. Each passing week further solidifies the eternal trajectory of your children. As Frederick Douglass said, “it is easier to build strong children than repair broken men.” Raising your children to be right with God is easy, ONLY if you do what God is calling you to do…this week!
2. Sign Up for the See for Yourself guides
We believe See For Yourself is the best approach to building fulfilling relationships with your kids and passing on the Catholic Faith to them, and we make it easy by offering See for Yourself guides. Each of these online guides includes 1-3 embedded videos along with age-appropriate questions, answers and activities. It only takes about 15 minutes to complete one guide.
When you sign up, you will have access to every guide ever created. As you go through each one, it will be marked as complete, allowing you to keep track of the ones you’ve done. We are even planning giveaways for the families who use the guides most consistently, because we think that learning and growing your faith should be rewarding!
3. Use One Guide With Your Family Every Week
Yes, every week. Consistency is key.
Using a See For Yourself Guide couldn’t be simpler:
- Pull up this week’s guide on your phone or computer.
- Show your kids the first video.
- Use the included questions and answers to start a discussion.
That’s it! See For Yourself can be used around the dinner table, in front of the TV, sitting fireside, or anywhere where you and your family are gathered. Engaging your family and growing in the Faith together is that simple.
It has now been about 6 months that we have been doing [See for Yourself]. The program is easy to follow as you have done all the work. We hook a laptop up to the TV and use it like a monitor. We sit in the same seats we use to watch tv, so a comfortable setting. I have 4 kids - 15, 13 and 4 year old boys and 7 year old girl. They all get things, at their own level, from the program. Typically, I'll ask the questions following the video to a specific child depending on the depth of the question and video. The breadth of the subjects is great. Some are spiritual, while others help explain why Catholics do things a certain way. I'm a new Catholic so this helps me a lot. All of us learn something each week! We do this on Tuesday evenings and have only missed one week after getting started. I have had kids remind me about it and on several occasions ask when the next one was. One thing you did not mention is the brownie points from the wife. My wife has mentioned several times how much she likes the program and thanks me for it. I almost feel guilty about accepting her comments as really all the work has been done. All I have to do is click on videos and ask questions - that have answers! Plus I learn and enjoy the program. Just wanted to offer some comments, can't think of anything I would change.
We love the guides!
I've been working through these guides with the family and they're fantastic. Thank you for putting them together!
Beautiful reflections on venial and mortal sin. Powerful seeing the incorruptible saints. Thanks
My daughter loves it.
I expected this program to help me be a better dad. What I didn't expect was how it would affect my wife and kids. Frankly, my wife has been more warm toward me, grateful that I am dedicating this time with our children. My one son is not as verbally expressive. After each session, he gives me a hug! Amazing. Also, those analogies of natural things to represent spiritual realities are so impactful. For instance, the Guardian Angel Guide with the video about Mount Everest Sherpas being a representation of our guardian angels protecting us and leading us up the mountain was just so tangible, so clear. Thank you!
Excellent! My teen and I really were able to follow the guide easily, as with the other guides. The integration of different types of videos (informational and dramatic, etc.) that focused us in on the topic, really captured the attention of my teen. She was able to learn a lot because of that. Also, the videos are about real life stories at times and often times these stories are very moving, which will help us to remember the lesson later on. Thank you.
I have been enriched. This has been an excellent tool to foster deeper, loving, faith-filled relationships in my family. Dads make the difference.
This particular series of videos (See for Yourself - The Mass) my wife and I both agreed, were the best set that we've used so far. The points were clear, straightforward, and well reinforced in the videos and our kids, ages 6, 8 and 12 were particularly engaged. The kids were also able to answer the questions consistently and with greater detail than usual. We have been using these for 4 months. Thank You!!
I finally had my first See for Yourself night with kids. It went well. I mirrored from iPhone to TV & found I preferred to scroll down to questions without showing answers all at once. Thanks so much developing See for Yourself. My wife and six kids loved it and I think it will force me to set the example more.
We really enjoyed it. We thought the progression of the videos showing the loyalty of the animals and then the loyalty in human relationships was very inspirational!
All of the videos are very well liked. We all love the videos and messages...thanks and blessings.
My kids loved the videos and my eight year old didn't want it to end!
Thanks for putting this together! This really helped me and my children reflect on God's love for each of us and my role as their father.
Thank you, thank you, thank you again for your work on this! It has been very helpful for a guy like me who wants to do a better job connecting his children's hearts with the faith but feels he's only equipped to connect their heads to it. Our children need both. I am not good with the heart-part, but with your videos and your suggested questions and answers, I am able to put together good answers-from-the-heart that I don't think I could have done without a little help.
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